What Is Your Opinion On This?

Wednesday, May 1, 2019

Last week, I had the opportunity to attend a talk by a clinical psychologist from a local hospital. 

In one of her slides, there were only 3 lines which were,

7 + 3 = 10
1 + 4 = 4
2 + 5 = 7

What is your opinion on the 3 lines above?

Open Relationship, anyone?

Wednesday, February 27, 2019

The other day a friend name Nic asked me if I have ever had fun with another person while I am still in a relationship. And his definition of fun is any physical contacts and visual (including electronically such as web cam or photo ) ones involving the private parts. My reply to him was I have not done such a thing while my relationship is still "attached". It was a surprise to him that I was being "super loyal". I did not get to ask why it was a surprising response. I do not think he is the person who condone open relationship or cheats behind someone's back.

I also had a vague memory of someone nickname Ichimaru (vague cos my memory tells me it's him but cannot be certain of it) once told me that open relationship is common in PLU community. I was bewildered by such thoughts. 

Yesterday I posted a topless photo in my IG story and caught attention of few people who are in my "close friend" list that has access to it. One outstanding conversation I had was this guy name Zach whom I have known for many years even since the mIRC days. He was showing interest to have fun with me, which caught me by surprise because he is already attached with someone for more than a decade. It turns out that he has been in a open relationship for a few years already. 

He asked me the same question Nic asked me earlier, do I ever had fun with another guy while I am in relationship. He was in a bit of disbelief when I said I have not. I even told him that monogamous long term relationship do exist in PLU community. I even pointed out a certain high profile blogger name William for having an exemplary long term monogamous relationship.

Is open relationship a common thing in the PLU community?

A quick check with my PLU "brothers" and my PLU "gang" that they are a strong supporter of monogamous relationship. There was also one additional comment that if both person in the relationship agree to such arrangement to make it as "open relationship", guess it would not be "morally wrong", so to say.

What is your take on monogamous relationship or open relationship? Straight or or otherwise.

Life is Strange - Before the Storm

Sunday, December 30, 2018

I have been playing this game called Life is Strange. It's about a troubled and rebellious girl name Chloe. Unlike other games like MMO stuffs, this is a story game type- which I decide how the character will progress in the story line.

Along the way in the game, I need to make choices for Chloe, choices that will change the story line. If a decision to be made will alter the story line significantly, a warning sign will pop up saying that any decision made is irreversible. I will then need to pause a moment to think how I want the story to move forward. I am responsible for Chloe's life in her universe. It's something like the Butterfly Effect.

Taking this to real world, I have this life principal that, everyone is responsible for the own actions. Their own choices define who they are and how they become. When things go wrong, do not blame the sky and the earth of had happened. It is all in your own hands.

The same advice I apply to myself and also the same advise I give to people that will alter our relationship in a significant way. If a person feels like he wanna do something? I will share my thoughts on that something so and so. If it's good, then I will support it. If I think it's bad, then I will advise against it. If that person still wanna go ahead, by all means, then please go head. If it's good, then it's good for you. If it's bad, you made your choice. 

Just bear in mind, we are responsible on our choices and be ready to bear with the consequences that comes along the way.

With no regrets. 

Because in real life, unlike a game, there is no option to reset it and play it all over again.

(ed note: there are certain issues, I can be an idealist. But on certain issues, based on past experiences, I have be a realist)